Exactly! There’s gonna be horror stories no matter what you do. Exchange wallets with reputable exchanges like CoinBase I think are more safe than personal wallets.
It’s just a matter of risk.
You have a fire, you will likely lose your personal wallets if they’re not in the cloud with backups (which offer hacking risks).
I treat mine like banks. You shouldn’t go over the FDIC insurance on any bank account in theory and you shouldn’t hold BTC with one provider over a limit you’re not willing to lose.