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    Lightbulb Seeking some out side of the BOX THINKERS!!

    I am trying to raise around $3500 for a medical procedure that I have to have within the next month. Doc says I must have it but he won't do it unless I have $3500.

    So i don't know many people and I am not on social media due to my abuser stalking me .

    I need some outside the box thinkers on how I could approach some local businesses and churches for donations for my cause (I would write a letter to go.with my speech) but just asking them for money won't cut it. .


    So I am trying to thing of a fundraiser (not selling donuts an dyour usually stuff.).

    I WANT SOMETHING REALLY REALLY CRAZY AND OUTSIDE THE BOX THAT MIGHT GET THE ATTENTION OF THE LOCAL NEWS .

    part of this procedure is so I can be on a documentary airing on NBC in Jan about domestic violence survivors.

    The surgery is three teeth that my abuser broke off at the gun and they are abecssed and I need my top teeth removed well what is left that he didn't knock out.....

    When folks see my teeth they think I am a meth head. Thankfully I hide my teeth well and no I have never used drugs....


    Any ideas my PR family???!!?? Hit me with your best shot....

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    Hi feisty,

    Sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you can get the health care you need. Have you thought of a go fund me web page?

    https://www.gofundme.com/how-it-work...b3b6445e883062

    Hope this helps,
    pmpl
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    I did but don't really know anyone to donate to it. That was why I wanted some wacky ideas to try to get strangers attention that my coworker is going to help me with lol

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    @feisty

    I’m sorry for what you have endured and admire that you want to help yourself.

    I understand that you need to stay off social media, but I am concerned a wild fundraising idea that gets media attention might also draw attention from someone you don’t want attention from.

    There are many go fund me pages, so accruing a significant amount might not happen, but keep it up. You don’t need to know a donor; they need to relate to you.

    How about a multi-pronged approach?

    Have you negotiated with your doctor to waive or reduce the fees? Volunteer to assist in the office or volunteer for the docs favorite charity, to pay something back.

    Have you gone to a local University that has a dental degree program? You can get the work done free or very reduced by students and the professors inspect and sign off on the quality of work. Visit all churches and places of worship? It might take a village/team to make this happen in short order.

    Put together a truthful letter with photos, before/after damage –blur your entire face, and deliver these to other doctors/dentists with a plea, directly asking for financial assistance to repair the damage. There is nothing more compelling than the victim of domestic abuse stating her case and her financial situation in person. I feel it may convince funders that you have a ‘real” and compelling case for their support and in turn, this makes them more likely to donate and share your story with their friends and family and doctors and dentists to raise funds. Some doctor/dentist may offer their services free or reduced. Have a letter/brochure with this information that they can share.

    Have you spoken to local shelters as well as national shelters and organizations for help or ideas?

    I must be direct; this is not a subject I would want associated with a “crazy” idea right now. (Yes, I would be as eager as you are to be active and help yourself, and I would try anything too---hugs) After you get the funding and the dental care is done, you could share your story as you noted, in a documentary and contact local TV stations to share what happened to you, how you struggled and how you cared for yourself. Then have a fun, fundraiser for the community to support other survivors to pay it forward?

    Setting up a car wash, a race, a hot dog grill, a tomato romp, takes sponsors, permits, volunteers and bookkeeping.

    Whatever you decide to do, try it. I wish you every success and I hope you feel stronger for it.

    I’m looking forward to the great ideas members have for you.

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    Hi @feisty the most obvious answer that jumped out at me, is to sell potential donors some rights to cover your story when your teeth r fixed. Perhaps some domestic abuse charities could steer u in the right direction there

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    @feisty I'm sorry the PR community can't come up with more ideas for you to raise the money you need. I imagine how your teeth are a constant reminder and painful--that makes me cry. You should not feel badly for your broken teeth, but I understand how some might wonder why. I hope when you feel safe, you can tell anyone who inquires, the reason. You were a victim of a crime and you are now a survivor trying her best to get the medical care she needs and that includes more than fixing your teeth. There is a lot you want and need to do, including uplifting your spirit and calm your being.

    Please know this, I have deep respect for what you are doing, saddened and angry for what happened and what you continue to endure because of it. I admire that you are doing your best to move forward toward a better life for yourself. I feel you deserve this, at the minimum.

    I wish I could take your challenges from you.

    Please take care of you.

    Please
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    Quote Originally Posted by feisty View Post
    I am trying to raise around $3500 for a medical procedure that I have to have within the next month. Doc says I must have it but he won't do it unless I have $3500.

    So i don't know many people and I am not on social media due to my abuser stalking me .

    I need some outside the box thinkers on how I could approach some local businesses and churches for donations for my cause (I would write a letter to go.with my speech) but just asking them for money won't cut it. .


    So I am trying to thing of a fundraiser (not selling donuts an dyour usually stuff.).

    I WANT SOMETHING REALLY REALLY CRAZY AND OUTSIDE THE BOX THAT MIGHT GET THE ATTENTION OF THE LOCAL NEWS .

    part of this procedure is so I can be on a documentary airing on NBC in Jan about domestic violence survivors.

    The surgery is three teeth that my abuser broke off at the gun and they are abecssed and I need my top teeth removed well what is left that he didn't knock out.....

    When folks see my teeth they think I am a meth head. Thankfully I hide my teeth well and no I have never used drugs....


    Any ideas my PR family???!!?? Hit me with your best shot....
    Hi feisty. I think the man that broke your teeth should pay. See a lawyer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by snowy View Post
    Hi feisty. I think the man that broke your teeth should pay. See a lawyer.
    Oh he is also n jail facin 25years so he has no money. I know that normal fundraiser ideas I just thought someone might have something different and fun that I hadn't thought of. Thank you all.
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  9. @feisty, i had a lot of dental problems and finally got a relative to use carecredit and paid it back monthly. it took 3 years but it got done. some dentists will extend credit on their own, like for braces. unless you have a large circle of acquaintances, gofundme probably won't work.
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    @feisty I am very sorry to hear your story. Thankfully he’s in jail for a Long time.

    I don’t have any new ideas but I do second going to the University in your area that teaches dentistry.
    I don’t have dental insurance and I go to my local university 2x a year. Well actually more because it takes them longer for anything the students do.
    I know the procedures you are looking to get would be at least 50% through them. And you can make payments. Well at least I can through the school I go to.

    If I were you I would also tell my story to the students. They might have good ideas for help if you go there. I know my sister had a ton of work done after she quit using heroin after 20 years and neglecting her teeth and they did help her by using her in one of their brochures for advertising and that saved her a ton.

    Good luck, I Hope you can get this done & soon.
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    So if your abuser is in jail, you should have no problems getting back on social media, right? Jump back in and start asking. Ask the documentary people to pay you for promotion (this will require you to go in person to screenings, speak at domestic violence events and pose for media advertising) see if your dentist will give you a price break if he is named in the documentary. This is not only free advertising for him, but paints him in a generous giving light. You have to sell everyone on why they should help you out. What would make you want to help someone out in this same situation? People want to be sold on a idea and they need the story to get interested. Coming straight from you and seeing the damage first hand will go a long way for credibility. People want to be a part of the solution so they can feel their hard earned money went to do something meaningful. Appeal to that. Show them your desperation and what will happen without help. Then follow up with the procedure and all the ups and downs of having the surgery. Finally, give a follow up and make sure to thank each and every person for their donations (this is extremely important). If someone gets brought into your story and feels the need to help they will tell their friends and those friends will tell their friends. Call local churches. Ask to speak with the pastor and tell him all about your experience. You will be amazed at how generous people in churches can be. You may have to get up in front of the congregation, but it will be worth it! I wouldn't cheapen your need for money with a crazy event to get attention. To me, that goes against your credibility and would hurt your money intake. Besides that you don't need that. You have a compelling story - you just need to tell it. Set yourself short and long term goals for this project, so you can see your progress. There will be days when you will feel like your working hard and not getting anywhere, but those days are just filler and don't count towards the ultimate goal. Keep positive and in the end you will not only get the procedure done, you will also have the confidence and satisfaction of getting the job done by yourself. Good luck!
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    Great point! I am just scared and anxious when it comes.to.my story and my abuser finding me......even though I am now a new person.. literally.....
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  13. is he in jail, @feisty? if so, you should concentrate on remaking your life. just keep up with his parole hearings. if he's out on bail, you do need to keep of sight. it's a little unclear how he could harm you from jail. do prisoners get internet privileges?

    maybe instead of using the term "my" abuser, you could distance yourself by saying "the man who abused me." using the possessive pronoun always bugs me because it implies intimacy. you want to sever all connection with that piece of garbage. i hate that he still influences you.
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    He is in jail but has people searching for me this why I am legally having to change my full identity....hope that answers the question...and just because they are in jail doesn't stop them from getting to you.... unfortunately....

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    Have you thought about approaching people in Dental school and let them experiment on your teeth? Then say to them, you will get a local reporter, tell your story say what a wonderful job this guy/girl done. The trainee dentist gets free publicity and will stand out when he is looking for a job due to the news article and if that bastard sees it, then it is also a slap in the face to your ex, especially if you pressed charges and can name him. I asked in your other thread if you were from the UK? I think you are from the states? In the UK, they have magazines that will pay 1k-3k for true life stories. This maybe a way you could raise some money to have them done. Also, many people start a GFM, I am pretty sure it is cost nothing so it may be worth setting up one. I also sw an advert for adult flippers when I was in the states? would they be an option, until you get your teeth sorted? All the best .
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    You might check out the crime victim compensation fund in your state, especially if you reported the attack to the police.

    What is victim compensation?
    Victim compensation is a direct financial reimbursement to a victim for an expense that resulted from a crime, such as medical costs or lost wages. Each state has a crime victim compensation program that allocates funds to survivors of sexual assault and other violent crimes.

    What types of expenses are covered?
    Federal law requires that all state compensation programs cover the following crime-related costs:

    Lost wages or loss of support
    Medical costs
    Mental health counseling
    States also cover other costs that relate directly to crimes of sexual violence, though the specifics of each program vary from state-to-state. Learn more about what costs may be covered in your state.

    Where does the money come from?
    In most states, convicted perpetrators are required to pay court fees that serve as a source of revenue for the state’s victim compensation program, rather than tax dollars. All state programs also receive support through the federal Victims of Crime Act (VOCA), enacted in 1984. Each state has a cap on the total amount of money that can be paid out for any one case, and there may be limits on how much money can be paid per category of expense. According to the National Association of Crime Victim Compensation Boards (NACVBC), maximum benefits from states average about $25,000, with some states able to offer more, and some states having lower limits.

    How can I apply for compensation?
    To apply for compensation you will have to fill out a form and submit claims to the agency that runs the victim compensation program in your state. You can ask someone from your local law enforcement agency how to apply, and in some states they may be able to refer you to a crime victim liaison who can help walk you through the process.

    You can find the website and contact information for your state’s victim compensation office through the NACVBC state program directory.

    What are the criteria to apply?
    Each state has its own requirements to be eligible for compensation, but there are a few general rules that tend to apply for eligibility.

    Reporting the crime to law enforcement. Most programs require victims to report the crime within a predetermined amount of time, usually about 72 hours. This timeframe varies from state-to-state. Most programs will accept claims on behalf of child victims whenever sexual abuse is reported.
    Cooperation with law enforcement. All states require cooperation with the criminal justice system, both law enforcement officers and prosecutors, even if no arrest is made. However, many programs allow waivers for victims who decline to cooperate because of legitimate fears for their health or safety.
    Submitting a timely application. The deadline for submitting a financial claim can vary between 180 days up through 2 years following the crime, depending on the state. The person seeking compensation should be prepared to provide relevant documents, such as a police report or medical bills, to support the claim.
    Victim compensation as a final resource. Compensation only kicks in once other insurance options, such as Medicaid or Medicare, have been applied to cover costs or losses due to the crime.
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  17. @feisty , I know this is an old thread and you may have already resolved. That said, I stumbled across this link recently

    https://aacd.com/applyforgbas

    The Give Back a Smile program was established to connect eligible survivors of domestic and/or sexual violence who've received dental injuries from the abuse with volunteer cosmetic dentists throughout the United States and Canada. Thought of you.

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    Hi there!

    I'm so sorry to hear of your story... Between volunteering most my life then eventually going thru the craziest, multi abusive & illegal situation of my own, this stuff always hits home for me..

    So, There is a website that is solely devoted to fixing teeth of domestic abuse survivors... I can't remember the name of the site but I do remember it was easy to find by looking up organizations that help fix teeth from abuse & domestic violence for free.... Or something like that.
    I remember they do have an application process & will not help you if you've already started w/another doc... So start doing searches online because they're a big nation wide non profit that solely helps people with exactly what you need!

    Also, Sometimes there are local oral surgeons who do implants & such who do work on famous people, like to talk about & advertise how they transformed someone's life.. They're always trying to keep in the media about who they helped so try checking around for some people/surgeons you need to see if they have any programs for victims of abuse. Write out a heartfelt letter w/as much info about your physical health, the damage, how it's impacting your life then send this letter &/or email to as many oral surgeons/dentists who do this type of work, as you can.. You never know, 1 of them or more may very well be willing to help you!

    DEFINITELY get 3 consults w/different surgeons!! Then look them up online for any info you can find on them good or bad & then call your states medical &/or dental board & ask them if there's ever been any complaints or suits filed against any of the docs you are thinking of having help you!! This is SO important, I cannot stress this enough!!

    Last pretty much all doctors, surgeons, dentists & veterinary offices have things like Clear Credit & there's a few more credit companies now where you can apply for a 12-24month interest free loan up to $5000. Then you can make the interest free payments over the length of time & hopefully have it paid off by the end of the term.
    I've had to use these in emergency situations & they're great because you're not taking $$$ out of your savings or putting a huge charge on your CC that will be compounding interest.. The Doc/surgeons office is who negotiates the amount they will lend & the length of the interest free term so if you try this make sure they understand you need the longest interest free term possible..
    If you can raise funds it will allow you to keep those funds in a savings account & draw a little interest on what's in there.. It's a win-win if you can get 1. They're pretty much available to anyone w/a dire need & decent credit...

    Last, I agree about not making up some crazy story to gain more... it will actually backfire & turn people off. Plus there are laws involved w/this & if you say anything that isn't true in your pleas for help you can get in big trouble... So def keep it honest, your story, talk about what you went thru & what it's like to live w/the day to day challenges of your situation & what will happen if you don't get this addressed ASAP, like bone loss in your jaws, further tooth loss, more surgical &/or dental work..

    Then post the sh*t out of it on all social media platforms, post atleast 2-3x a week, make YouTube vids, post vids on Insta & FB too.. You can create a false identity for your social media accounts or a catchy name that has something to do w/your current situation or what you'd like your current situation to be... You don't have to use your real name on any social media. I'd also create a new email address w/a different name or saying to use to sign up for all your new social media accounts.. Then get people to share the heck out of your posts! Videos go a long way & are usually most effective in social media marketing...

    So sorry to hear of your situation, abuse is a horribly scary thing to go thru & living with the painful reminder of it every second of every day makes it all worse as you really can't move on... I went thru something very similar & the people involved in all of the different kinds of abuses I went thru were all people who knew better, knew what they were doing was highly illegal, they'd taken oaths to do the exact opposite of what they did to me & it scared me so bad I became afraid to tell anyone what happened to me which was torture of every kind.. So I can relate & I do wish you the very best.

    Also, if you have any clothes, jewelry, household items that are in good condition & your not using or probably won't use in the next year or so, I can help you get set up on a couple different online platforms where you can sell your things. They're both very easy & as long as you do everything right, are honest, you'd be surprised at how much extra income you can bring in.. I'd be happy to help you, walk you thru how to do everything & give you the names of some very helpful FB groups for online sellers of these platforms... they're super helpful too! Just let me know. They aren't eBay by the way... that place is kind of a mess right now & much harder to learn that the other 2 I would suggest to you. They're actually a cake walk compared to eBay so don't think this will be too hard or confusing for you to do.. I promise it's not & you'll have someone to walk you thru how to do everything the correct & best way!

    Oh & if this sounds like something you'd be interested in I can tell you how to source more items to sell that you can get for maybe free or for very cheap & how to research the types of things to look for that sell fast....

    Anyhow, best wishes to you. I hope you can get everything you need.
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    What a great find for you to post @Blackbird123.

    I was listenong to a live feed the other night and the guest was from CA. and said that we needed more common kindness towards others and I agree.

    She said that too many do not respond with a gentle spirit.

    Hmm let me see who it was , someone that had a honey Bee web site .
    She narrated the movie about Bee’s disappearing.

    @Fiesty I hope you have had good luck and are doing okay with the new life.

    We all deserve to find that new life if needed.
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