You absolutely nailed it for me too. I quit smoking about 24 years ago. I don't drink but thats because I'm an Alchoholic and haven't done so for over 26 years. Never saw the point of gamblingAnyone have a vice?
I always need something...but right now I sort of am a bit all over the place and don't really have ONE major vice but rather, have a few crutches.
I used to smoke but quit 3 years ago.
I don't drink as I hate the taste of alcohol.
I don't gamble. I don't do hard / street drugs. I don't shop to excess.
I DO looove chocolate and sweets, and I am of course self-medicating with pills.
This was me, but had to give it up a few months back (thanks afib!). Now it's decaf all day. Le sigh. But at least I have a great choice of a bunch of different flavors that I enjoy, so there's that.caffeine all day !!!!!!
I found it on Amazon. It's called Crazy Cups and comes in a bunch of different flavors depending on your tastes. I started off with a variety pack (which gives you a bit of everything, so you get everything from a flavor called Death by Chocolate to Banana Flambe) and then if you go to the Crazy Cups site directly you can customize your order. I have certain flavors I really like (White Chocolate Strawberry, Chocolate Raspberrry, Pumpkin Caramel Spice, Butter Pecan and Chocolate Coconut) that I compile into a sampler of my own and that lasts me a good while (and helps me get through my crummy workday LOL). Hope you enjoy if you decide to try them! (Hint: Don't order from Amazon if you just wanna try out a few. Go to their site cause you can order packs of 4 of a flavor, while the Amazon samplers throw in whatever they want and if you don't like a flavor you're stuck with it).@heavymetalviolet what's your favorite decaf bean? I hear you on books, wish I could afford more (pirate's budget). Maurice White should be an inspiration to us all, for the way he rocked that hairline over the years.
I understand how hard it must be to quit Selfhelp, as my mother did stop but found it hard. My father had to, as it had already given him cancer, and my brother even now cannot stop, though his health is terrible. I worry about him.Still smoking- I did quit for 5 years in the past, so I know it can be done. I only smoke outside, so that helps.... but I know that I need to quit completely at some point for my health. I think I'll always need my coffee and chocolate though.![]()
Hi Amy, Thank you for the encouragement. My parents both smoked for many years, and they finally quit when the were about my age. So I realize that it can be done. I have been using nicotine gum for a while now and it seems to help. I'm slowly cutting down. The hardest times for me are in the morning.... I seem to have to have a smoke or three with my coffee. Also, when I'm outside It seems to be hard. I know most of it is just a habit that I need to break. What makes it hard is that I really do enjoy smoking and so far, it hasn't affected my health. Smoking used to be socially acceptable... but now days everyone looks at you like a bad person when you light up. The look of disgust on some peoples face is really hurtful. Anyway, I am going to eventually kick this habit. I'm going to have to quit for ME.... not because I might offend others. I may sound a little defiant, but I hate being judged by people that have not walked in my shoes. It will take time, but eventually I will be done with them. Thank you again for the support!I understand how hard it must be to quit Selfhelp, as my mother did stop but found it hard. My father had to, as it had already given him cancer, and my brother even now cannot stop, though his health is terrible. I worry about him.Still smoking- I did quit for 5 years in the past, so I know it can be done. I only smoke outside, so that helps.... but I know that I need to quit completely at some point for my health. I think I'll always need my coffee and chocolate though.![]()
I know how stressful it can be, and the stress is worse now. I have heard people say how smoking relaxes them, so I feel for you trying to quit.
I had to taper off some medications in the past, and struggled.
I really hope you can stop as my grand father smoked and it gave him lung cancer too.
So I have seen the damage, and heartache it causes.
I love coffee and chocolate too, and have too much of both! So I need to cut down too!
Rooting for you to be able to quit, maybe just have one less a day, or taper it very slowly when you feel ready. Like not finishing off a cigarette completely, or taking a longer break in between, if only for a 5 minutes and then build it up slowly, so you don't notice.
Hope this helps, as you have a lot to give and it is thoughtful of you that you smoke outside.
Maybe even have extra coffee and chocolate or something else you like in between the breaks between smoking.
I can also recommend a hypnosis cd or download to help. I know it may sound a bit bonkers, but it worked for me.
It really helped me to come off the medication I was on, and also wanted to write, but couldn't.
I had writer's block. Played the cd, and to my amazement found myself writing my first story in years within days after!
I was stunned at how much it worked, and would be happy to share the information of some of my sources if you are interested.
Just meant to be a short post trying to offer some encouragement and tips.
take care,![]()
Hi @Selfhelp, Thank you for sharing. I remember how it used to be socially acceptable and the dangers were not known and spoken of as they were later. I am pleased and impressed that you have been using nicotine gum and are already slowly cutting down. I feel for you finding it hard in the morning, as I have been tempted to smoke at times, when low, but didn't, as I had not started, but I understand as much as I can the temptation. I find the mornings really hard and wake up hit with depression, and so can empathize with the longing for the smoke with your coffee. I have too much coffee and chocolate! I really understand the need to have a little lift and feeling of calm to relieve anxiety, and stress.Hi Amy, Thank you for the encouragement. My parents both smoked for many years, and they finally quit when the were about my age. So I realize that it can be done. I have been using nicotine gum for a while now and it seems to help. I'm slowly cutting down. The hardest times for me are in the morning.... I seem to have to have a smoke or three with my coffee. Also, when I'm outside It seems to be hard. I know most of it is just a habit that I need to break. What makes it hard is that I really do enjoy smoking and so far, it hasn't affected my health. Smoking used to be socially acceptable... but now days everyone looks at you like a bad person when you light up. The look of disgust on some peoples face is really hurtful. Anyway, I am going to eventually kick this habit. I'm going to have to quit for ME.... not because I might offend others. I may sound a little defiant, but I hate being judged by people that have not walked in my shoes. It will take time, but eventually I will be done with them. Thank you again for the support!I understand how hard it must be to quit Selfhelp, as my mother did stop but found it hard. My father had to, as it had already given him cancer, and my brother even now cannot stop, though his health is terrible. I worry about him.Still smoking- I did quit for 5 years in the past, so I know it can be done. I only smoke outside, so that helps.... but I know that I need to quit completely at some point for my health. I think I'll always need my coffee and chocolate though.![]()
I know how stressful it can be, and the stress is worse now. I have heard people say how smoking relaxes them, so I feel for you trying to quit.
I had to taper off some medications in the past, and struggled.
I really hope you can stop as my grand father smoked and it gave him lung cancer too.
So I have seen the damage, and heartache it causes.
I love coffee and chocolate too, and have too much of both! So I need to cut down too!
Rooting for you to be able to quit, maybe just have one less a day, or taper it very slowly when you feel ready. Like not finishing off a cigarette completely, or taking a longer break in between, if only for a 5 minutes and then build it up slowly, so you don't notice.
Hope this helps, as you have a lot to give and it is thoughtful of you that you smoke outside.
Maybe even have extra coffee and chocolate or something else you like in between the breaks between smoking.
I can also recommend a hypnosis cd or download to help. I know it may sound a bit bonkers, but it worked for me.
It really helped me to come off the medication I was on, and also wanted to write, but couldn't.
I had writer's block. Played the cd, and to my amazement found myself writing my first story in years within days after!
I was stunned at how much it worked, and would be happy to share the information of some of my sources if you are interested.
Just meant to be a short post trying to offer some encouragement and tips.
take care,![]()
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@Big vice, maybe not my biggest, is a strong stubborness about
what I want/don't want,
will do/won't do,
want to do/don't want to do.
One vice, maybe my biggest is that I love to sleep, and just can't seem to ever get enough.
I have a job that requires me to be up by 5am, and by 7pm, I look forward to "getting to bed".
Some weekends I work also, and I have always been something of a workaholic.
I don't know whether "burnout" is a real thing, but it's very possible I am indeed burned-out and still working.
On the other hand, I am deathly afraid of the word "retirement" ... which to me is the equivalent of being "put out to pasture".
I don't have substance-related vices (well, maybe a few) but I have a long way to go, to become the person I'd like to become.
Thanks for letting me get these thougths and feelings out into writing. I so appreciate these forums and all of you here.
@ohanes, I love to sleep and find it a break from the day. Having to up by 5am is rough.Big vice, maybe not my biggest, is a strong stubborness about
what I want/don't want,
will do/won't do,
want to do/don't want to do.
One vice, maybe my biggest is that I love to sleep, and just can't seem to ever get enough.
I have a job that requires me to be up by 5am, and by 7pm, I look forward to "getting to bed".
Some weekends I work also, and I have always been something of a workaholic.
I don't know whether "burnout" is a real thing, but it's very possible I am indeed burned-out and still working.
On the other hand, I am deathly afraid of the word "retirement" ... which to me is the equivalent of being "put out to pasture".
I don't have substance-related vices (well, maybe a few) but I have a long way to go, to become the person I'd like to become.
Thanks for letting me get these thougths and feelings out into writing. I so appreciate these forums and all of you here.
I'm totally with you on the hating mornings. I have to be at work by 7 and I despise it. I much prefer to sleep in and get there later. But that's just how it is. Sigh. Conversely, retirement is my fantasy. I've been working since I was 14 years old, and as such, I would LOVE to stop working...or at least, stop working conventional jobs. My dream/fantasy would be to work for myself. Get up when I want to, work when I want (a REAL flexible schedule, not the kind some work from home jobs pay lip service to but don't actually mean). I would enjoy writing and similar online work. Just me though.Big vice, maybe not my biggest, is a strong stubborness about
what I want/don't want,
will do/won't do,
want to do/don't want to do.
One vice, maybe my biggest is that I love to sleep, and just can't seem to ever get enough.
I have a job that requires me to be up by 5am, and by 7pm, I look forward to "getting to bed".
Some weekends I work also, and I have always been something of a workaholic.
I don't know whether "burnout" is a real thing, but it's very possible I am indeed burned-out and still working.
On the other hand, I am deathly afraid of the word "retirement" ... which to me is the equivalent of being "put out to pasture".
I don't have substance-related vices (well, maybe a few) but I have a long way to go, to become the person I'd like to become.
Thanks for letting me get these thougths and feelings out into writing. I so appreciate these forums and all of you here.
Oh snap! Skateboarding yea? Like going to a park and on quarterpipes and stuff?WELL, I'm a recovering poly-substance/multi addiction abuser. So many many vices. Nowadays I try to steer towards a different kind of vice: like poetry, skateboarding, reading.
in the more traditional form of vice, I'd have to say anxiety medication first and foremost. I'm learning to not let the vices control me nowadays!
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